[Image: A moving gif of a white woman in a sweater, shorts, and sandals on a wood floor, eating a piece of pizza.]
Or: things fat women can’t do.
If this were a fat woman in this gif, people would LOSE THEIR SHIT and trample each other trying to tell the woman to “eww stop eating the pizza and exercise” and “I’m not prejudiced against fat people, but it’s just not healthy” and “that’s why she’s fat! eat a salad once in a while!” and “I think fatties should just die” and “people like this are a drain on our healthcare system, why should I pay so they can do things like this?”. But most of all, the trumpet would sound and the ringing of the cry: “SHE’S GLORIFYING OBESITY!” would sound across the land.
Thin white woman in ugly ass clothes? People are all “I love this” and “I think I own those shoes”. She can eat pizza and people will be more interested in her shoes and not care at all about her health or think of caring, really.
fat person walks in the room and all of a sudden every skinny motherfucker within a 5-mile radius is a doctor, therapist, nutritionist, and personal trainer with something to say
So, let me get this straight. You can design fifteen distinct characters for your space based superhero team and it never dawns on you that they’re all thin? Even the aliens are thin.
You’ll put space toads in there before you have even ONE fat human with superpowers in the future? Really?
How is it that all these superhero teams are almost to a one made of all thin people. Really? I’m not just talking about space. I’m talking about modern day ones set in NYC or a reasonable facsimile thereof (they all are) where apparently even amongst the “obesity epidemic” all the superpowered people are thin. You’d pretty have to be willing to say “fat makes you immune to having super powers” for that to statistically work out so that you justifiably had an all thin team.
Oh and don’t come to me with: “But aren’t you happy? They drew the women realistically in this one!”
Asshole, no they didn’t. If all your women are thin, you are not drawing them realistically. Smaller busts and less ridiculous costuming doesn’t equal a fair representation of the diversity of women and their bodies.
You’re still doing the same thing as the guys who draw bubble boobies and bikini armor: stating that women only look like that. Or that women worth having as characters only look like that.
And my big fat patience ran out a long time ago. So take your cookie cutter, unimaginative Thin Fest and just go.
[Series of texts by @fatnutritionist, which read: “People are mad at me because they ‘work so hard’ to be fit or lose weight. They have told me this explicitly. It implies that they think my rejecting the values they subscribe to can somehow take away the fitness they’ve worked for. That is totally delusional. If you’ve worked hard for fitness, no amount of fat people rejecting stigma can take that away. So this is obviously not actually about fitness, at all. It’s about the other thing they ‘worked hard’ for: social status. They DO think, and they know, that the social status they have worked hard to earn, through ‘fitness,’ can be devalued. It can be devalued if the hierarchy that rewards them is crushed. Crushed by people rejecting stigma. We can’t take away your fitness or whatever weight you’ve lost. But we can devalue those things by destroying fat stigma. So they are afraid of us, and for good reason. If fat people aren’t stigmatized, then there is no more thin privilege. Remember always, fat people: People are afraid of you because you have an awesome power - to destroy the hierarchy. If they were not afraid of losing their place in the hierarchy, they would not come after you so viciously.” All tweets were accompanied by the hashtag, #notyourgoodfatty]
Hmm. But this only counts with fat yt women, yeah? Not devaluing the posts or the sentiment or the truth behind it. Just that, it’s a shaded truth. It doesn’t touch fat Asian women, fat Latinas and definitely not fat Black women. And I’m not sure where men fit in here - cause that’s not my direct issue for observation.
Still though, yeah. Make your voice heard = getting crushed.
You’re absolutely right.
I got caught up on one sentiment and forgot to examine this deeper because it quite obvious to see. You’re right. Things definitely do not work this way outside a very oppressive sphere of whiteness.
And the FA/fat positivity/fat activism definitely has to make sure we’re not centering white fat people at the expense of all others, especially fat WoC as you said. If the movement is doing anything that hurts fat people, even if it’s on other axises than weight, then what’s the point of us? The point is always to make hurting stop for fat people.
Definitely should have examined this much further before reblogging. Sorry about that, I will not be making this mistake in the future with fat activism posts.
You know what, I’ve never met any who was anti-FA who wasn’t motivated by hate and the desire to make sure fat people experience as much pain as possible.
There seem to be two kinds: the open sadist and the moral crusader.
The open sadist makes no bones about hating fat people and wishing they would die and enjoying their suffering. They’re like snarling, rabid animals. They like pain, they don’t deny it. They think fat people deserve pain, they own that. I’d almost appreciate the honesty if it wasn’t for the fact that these are the guys who have no problem seeing even disabled children as acceptable victims. I think of them as the biker gang of fat hate.
The moral crusader dresses the same thing up and calls it “concern” and calls it looking out for people’s health and welfare. This particular predator wants to feel morally superior and feel like they’re a magnanimous, powerful soul deigning to use their time and attention to show their inferiors the way. It’s actually just a form of masturbating and then wanting to be patted on the head for it. This type cares about fat people’s health - until it comes time to spend money on fat people’s health or when that health isn’t weight related. Mental health for fat people doesn’t exist for this type of predator. Because to them, fat people don’t have human minds, human feelings, human emotions, human needs. Or human rights. I think of these guys as the abusive, embezzling, mega-church running preachers who see God as a revenue stream but want to convince everyone that they’re doing this because they love the Lord and you’re a sinner in need.
In the end if your opposition to a movement that’s about asserting that fat people don’t deserve discrimination, prejudice, pain, and exclusion is that it does fat people a disservice or promotes fatness, then you’re saying, “Look, fat people can’t just be fat and get away with it. They either have to be tortured or they have to get thin. They can’t go around just being fat and living their lives, that’s not acceptable!”
And that’s hate. When your object is to cause pain and death, that is hate.
So, I say again. I’ve never seen anyone who was anti-FA who wasn’t motivated by hate.
[Image: A gif set of four frames in a larger square showing a fantastic, gorgeous Black woman wearing a pink top and silver necklace speaking and gesturing and laughing. The captions read: Gaining weight is…the least of your worries. The world’s really shitty. And if that’s the shittiest thing that’s happened to you, you’re living a good life. Girl code. Motherfucker.”]
WHO IS THIS PARAGON OF PERFECTION? I MUST KNOW THIS PERSON’S NAME SO I MAY PROPERLY SING A SONG THAT MY PEOPLE CALLED “LOOK AT THIS IMPECCABLE FUCKING HUMAN BEING”
As much as we get praised for loving our full bodies, many young white women would rather be dead than wear a size 14. They nod their heads and say how great it is that we black women can embrace our curves, but they don’t want to look like us. They don’t adopt our presumably more generous beauty ideals. White women have even told me how lucky black women are that our men love and accept our bodies the way they are. I’ve never heard a white woman say that she’s going to take her cue from black women and gain a few pounds, however. In a way it is patronizing, because they’re basically saying, “It’s OK for you to be fat, but not me. You’re black. You’re different.”
In this society we have completely demonized fat. How many times have you had to tell a friend of yours that she isn’t fat? How many times has she had to tell you the same thing? Obviously, when people have unrealistic perceptions of themselves it should not go unnoticed, but in this act, while we are reassuring our friends, we put down every woman who is overweight. The demonization of fat and the ease of associating black women with fat exposes yet another opportunity for racism. If we really want to start talking more honestly about all women’s relationships with our bodies, we need to start asking the right questions. —
Sirena J. Riley, “The Black Beauty Myth” (via wretchedoftheearth)
Why white fat activists need to sit the fuck down and shut the fuck up with their fucking racist ass “Black men LOVE fat women” bullshit.
NO THE FUCK THEY DON’T.
Fat Black women are DESPISED. We are always blamed for the vitriol that we receive, because Mammy deserves to be hated when she dares try to come out of her station.
I think also that just because we have weight standards that aren’t as restrictive as whites, it doesn’t mean their isn’t restriction for fat Black women or that they never get ridiculed. Their is a lot of fucked up ways of teasing fat Black women within the community white people wouldn’t even recognize. And when black men treat white fat women differently than black fat women its saying lots
[Image: Four beautiful, fat, very light skinned femmes smiling, standing in a semi-circle wearing nothing but stocking and heels, looking fabulous and amazing in the nude.]
Photo Credit: Katiesoze photography
[Image: A pie in sepia tone with the text “eat all the pie” over it on a two tone sepia colored ray background.]
Fuck holiday diets. EAT ALL THE PIE.
Fuck all diets. Eat all the pie.
Both pie and typography are beautifully done. NOW GIMME A PIECE OF THAT.
average size women claim fat spaces for themselves - endless praise
death fats try and speak about their oppressions - health concern trolling from average size women & friends
Fat people’s recognition of ourselves as whole people, rather than slim people gone wrong, is not against you it is for fat people.
That is only a threat if you’ve come to base any of your sense of self worth on us being seen as inherently corrupt with you being the opposite of that.
Its the creation of an alternative fiction that is supposed to replace reality.
When the authorities insist, if you exercise and eat a balanced diet you’ll be slim. That is wishful thinking. It is a fiction they claim to be true. It makes things neat, simple and wrong.
It requires the belief that slim people eat certain kinds of things and not others. And that fat people eat other kinds of things that slim people do not eat.
And slim people are active, fat people inactive.
If anyone wants to eat what for them is a balanced diet, all well and good. They may remain the same, lose weight they may even become slim. But it is also true that eating a diet made of of overly processed foods, can also co-exist with becoming fatter, thinner or neither.
Certainly, not being particularly active doesn’t necessarily make you fat/ter or stop you from becoming slimmer, nor does activity necessarily lessen your weight.
We have all participated in this experiment, especially fat people. We’ve tested whether years or even a lifetime of calorie restriction and increased expenditure will make you slim.
This is the result. The so called ‘obesity’ crisis fat haters are whining about.
Anyone denying that, is engaging in delusion. That’s asserting fantasy in the face of reality, that’s what its called.