Posts Tagged: fat acceptance

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[Series of texts by @fatnutritionist, which read: “People are mad at me because they ‘work so hard’ to be fit or lose weight. They have told me this explicitly. It implies that they think my rejecting the values they subscribe to can somehow take away the fitness they’ve worked for. That is totally delusional. If you’ve worked hard for fitness, no amount of fat people rejecting stigma can take that away. So this is obviously not actually about fitness, at all. It’s about the other thing they ‘worked hard’ for: social status. They DO think, and they know, that the social status they have worked hard to earn, through ‘fitness,’ can be devalued. It can be devalued if the hierarchy that rewards them is crushed. Crushed by people rejecting stigma. We can’t take away your fitness or whatever weight you’ve lost. But we can devalue those things by destroying fat stigma. So they are afraid of us, and for good reason. If fat people aren’t stigmatized, then there is no more thin privilege. Remember always, fat people: People are afraid of you because you have an awesome power - to destroy the hierarchy. If they were not afraid of losing their place in the hierarchy, they would not come after you so viciously.” All tweets were accompanied by the hashtag, #notyourgoodfatty]

Read the full thread of Michelle’s tweets on Storify.


Hmm. But this only counts with fat yt women, yeah? Not devaluing the posts or the sentiment or the truth behind it. Just that, it’s a shaded truth. It doesn’t touch fat Asian women, fat Latinas and definitely not fat Black women. And I’m not sure where men fit in here - cause that’s not my direct issue for observation.

Still though, yeah. Make your voice heard = getting crushed.

You’re absolutely right. 

I got caught up on one sentiment and forgot to examine this deeper because it quite obvious to see. You’re right. Things definitely do not work this way outside a very oppressive sphere of whiteness. 

And the FA/fat positivity/fat activism definitely has to make sure we’re not centering white fat people at the expense of all others, especially fat WoC as you said. If the movement is doing anything that hurts fat people, even if it’s on other axises than weight, then what’s the point of us? The point is always to make hurting stop for fat people.

Definitely should have examined this much further before reblogging. Sorry about that, I will not be making this mistake in the future with fat activism posts. 

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You know what, I’ve never met any who was anti-FA who wasn’t motivated by hate and the desire to make sure fat people experience as much pain as possible. 

There seem to be two kinds: the open sadist and the moral crusader.

The open sadist makes no bones about hating fat people and wishing they would die and enjoying their suffering. They’re like snarling, rabid animals. They like pain, they don’t deny it. They think fat people deserve pain, they own that. I’d almost appreciate the honesty if it wasn’t for the fact that these are the guys who have no problem seeing even disabled children as acceptable victims. I think of them as the biker gang of fat hate. 

The moral crusader dresses the same thing up and calls it “concern” and calls it looking out for people’s health and welfare. This particular predator wants to feel morally superior and feel like they’re a magnanimous, powerful soul deigning to use their time and attention to show their inferiors the way. It’s actually just a form of masturbating and then wanting to be patted on the head for it. This type cares about fat people’s health - until it comes time to spend money on fat people’s health or when that health isn’t weight related. Mental health for fat people doesn’t exist for this type of predator. Because to them, fat people don’t have human minds, human feelings, human emotions, human needs. Or human rights. I think of these guys as the abusive, embezzling, mega-church running preachers who see God as a revenue stream but want to convince everyone that they’re doing this because they love the Lord and you’re a sinner in need.

In the end if your opposition to a movement that’s about asserting that fat people don’t deserve discrimination, prejudice, pain, and exclusion is that it does fat people a disservice or promotes fatness, then you’re saying, “Look, fat people can’t just be fat and get away with it. They either have to be tortured or they have to get thin. They can’t go around just being fat and living their lives, that’s not acceptable!”

And that’s hate. When your object is to cause pain and death, that is hate. 

So, I say again. I’ve never seen anyone who was anti-FA who wasn’t motivated by hate.

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[Image: A gif set of four frames in a larger square showing a fantastic, gorgeous Black woman wearing a pink top and silver necklace speaking and gesturing and laughing. The captions read: Gaining weight is…the least of your worries. The world’s really shitty. And if that’s the shittiest thing that’s happened to you, you’re living a good life. Girl code. Motherfucker.”]



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"As much as we get praised for loving our full bodies, many young white women would rather be dead than wear a size 14. They nod their heads and say how great it is that we black women can embrace our curves, but they don’t want to look like us. They don’t adopt our presumably more generous beauty ideals. White women have even told me how lucky black women are that our men love and accept our bodies the way they are. I’ve never heard a white woman say that she’s going to take her cue from black women and gain a few pounds, however. In a way it is patronizing, because they’re basically saying, “It’s OK for you to be fat, but not me. You’re black. You’re different.”

In this society we have completely demonized fat. How many times have you had to tell a friend of yours that she isn’t fat? How many times has she had to tell you the same thing? Obviously, when people have unrealistic perceptions of themselves it should not go unnoticed, but in this act, while we are reassuring our friends, we put down every woman who is overweight. The demonization of fat and the ease of associating black women with fat exposes yet another opportunity for racism. If we really want to start talking more honestly about all women’s relationships with our bodies, we need to start asking the right questions."


Sirena J. Riley, “The Black Beauty Myth” (via wretchedoftheearth)

Why white fat activists need to sit the fuck down and shut the fuck up with their fucking racist ass “Black men LOVE fat women” bullshit.


Fat Black women are DESPISED. We are always blamed for the vitriol that we receive, because Mammy deserves to be hated when she dares try to come out of her station.

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I think also that just because we have weight standards that aren’t as restrictive as whites, it doesn’t mean their isn’t restriction for fat Black women or that they never get ridiculed. Their is a lot of fucked up ways of teasing fat Black women within the community white people wouldn’t even recognize. And when black men treat white fat women differently than black fat women its saying lots

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[Image: Four beautiful, fat, very light skinned femmes smiling, standing in a semi-circle wearing nothing but stocking and heels, looking fabulous and amazing in the nude.]

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[Image: A pie in sepia tone with the text “eat all the pie” over it on a two tone sepia colored ray background.]



Fuck holiday diets. EAT ALL THE PIE.

Fuck all diets. Eat all the pie.

Both pie and typography are beautifully done. NOW GIMME A PIECE OF THAT. 

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average size women claim fat spaces for themselves - endless praise

death fats try and speak about their oppressions - health concern trolling from average size women & friends

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Fat people’s recognition of ourselves as whole people, rather than slim people gone wrong, is not against you it is for fat people.

That is only a threat if you’ve come to base any of your sense of self worth on us being seen as inherently corrupt with you being the opposite of that.

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Stay out of my ask and please keep your comments off my tumblr.

Engage in that sickness on your own time plz, and don’t bring it over here. You might infect me with your nonsense.

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Its the creation of an alternative fiction that is supposed to replace reality.

When the authorities insist, if you exercise and eat a balanced diet you’ll be slim. That is wishful thinking. It is a fiction they claim to be true. It makes things neat, simple and wrong.

It requires the belief that slim people eat certain kinds of things and not others. And that fat people eat other kinds of things that slim people do not eat. 

And slim people are active, fat people inactive.

If anyone wants to eat what for them is a balanced diet, all well and good. They may remain the same, lose weight they may even become slim. But it is also true that eating a diet made of of overly processed foods, can also co-exist with becoming fatter, thinner or neither.

Certainly, not being particularly active doesn’t necessarily make you fat/ter or stop you from becoming slimmer, nor does activity necessarily lessen your weight.

We have all participated in this experiment, especially fat people. We’ve tested whether years or even a lifetime of calorie restriction and increased expenditure will make you slim.

This is the result. The so called ‘obesity’ crisis fat haters are whining about.

Anyone denying that, is engaging in delusion. That’s asserting fantasy in the face of reality, that’s what its called.

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[Image: A photo of a pair of light skinned legs crossed with a foot wearing a sandal on a beach landscape with the text: “Me-Sponsible. Me-Sponsible: The act of being responsible to me, for the benefit of my health, happiness, and well being. Redefining body image.’]



My interpretation of being me-sponsible involves soaking rays into my skin, letting my fat thighs breathe on the beach, and acknowledging beauty in everything - including myself.

(if anyone knows the true source of this quote, please let me know, as I was unable to find an author)

reblawgin’ cause i posted this super fucken early this morning

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[Image: Two pictures, one from behind and one from the front of a beautiful fat person with very light skin wearing a black bikini, on a beach, holding a blue and black boogie board under one arm, the other hand on their hip.]


i did it yall! i wore a bikini to a crowded beach! i am very very proud of myself

p.s. i look a little rough because i had just boogie boarded my ass off lol

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Somebody just tried to tell me that a woman like Gabourey Sidibe isnt’ a “threat” to whiteness. That women like Michelle Obama and Gabrielle Union and the like are the only ones who can “truly” change the face of black women in the media.

[gif removed. was picture of man of color with bright white hair in a black and white gif looking unamused.]

Get the fuck out of here with that sizist bullshit.

Fat black women exist, bitch. WE EXIST. We have every right to be on this fucking planet, and we have EVERY capability that skinny black women have. Don’t you fucking dare push us off to the side because we ain’t “the right kind of black woman.” Do you fucking realize who ends up bearing the brunt of black women’s stereotypes?? Welfare queen? Mammy? The butt of the jokes for sexuality?
FAT BLACK WOMEN. But y’all want to discredit us because of white supremacy’s penchant for denigrating us in the fucking media??????

No. FUCK. THAT. SHIT. Y’all skinny motherfuckers better get right.

[gif removed. Was gif of comedian Kevin Hart, a black man with a bald head, holding a microphone and speaking angrily. The caption read: “You gone learn today”]

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"If fat acceptance is a safe haven for racism in the name of solidarity and keeping the movement together, then I gotta tell you the truth: we’re doing it wrong. And not just a little wrong. If we are building a fat acceptance that supports racism then we are doing social justice fundamentally wrong on so many levels I cannot even."

- Dear Fat White People: (via therotund)

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Last weekend, MetroFats held a very successful skills share around body-shaming during holiday visits with family. We discussed the following questions:

  •   What about holiday gatherings is hard for you? Is it just about body size, or is there other stuff too? What kinds of thoughts and feelings do the holidays provoke?
  • How do we cope with body-shaming in the moment?
  • How do we evaluate whether to set boundaries around body-shaming with family members?
  • What can we do to take care of ourselves before and after a stressful event where implicit or explicit body-shaming is likely to occur?

Here are some ideas that we came up with:

  • An excellent place to start is the Spending the Holidays With Your Family Fatcast by the marvelous Lesley Kinzel and Marianne Kirby. Lesley and Marianne suggest having a buddy to vent to via text message (or venting on Twitter), taking some time to hide in the bathroom when things get to be too much, and deploying the abrupt subject change (i.e. “Have you gained/lost weight?” “Nope. How’s your cat?”)
  •  Get some perspective: your family is doing their best, even if their best is terrible. Karen recommends this essay by Anne Lamott.
  •  Eat often! A glucose-depleted brain is a brain that has a hard time coping, and if you’re eating often you don’t really need to worry about eating the perfect thing, because you’ll eat again soon anyway.
  •  Hanne Blank’s Big Big Love has an excellent chapter on setting boundaries with your family.
  •  Use the Fatosphere to bolster your body-positivity before and after stressful family events. Here are some places to start:


The Museum of Fat Love

Fuck Yeah, Visible Belly Outlines

Fuck Yeah, Trans Fats

Fuck Yeah, Chubby Couples

Fat People of Color


Also see the links to introductory fat acceptance resources on our website!

  •  Perhaps nothing is more crucial than self-care before and after stressful events (whether or not they are family-related and/or involve body-shaming)! Here’s a list of self-care resources we compiled:

Epic Self-Care Post

Meditation podcasts at

The Woman’s Comfort Book by Jennifer Louden

The Fat Nutritionist

If you have a resource to suggest for one of these lists, feel free to email it to us at metrofats [at] We wish happy holidays to those who celebrate and look forward to seeing everyone in 2012!

I can personally testify that texting/emailing/calling an FA friend out of range of your family and going to the bathroom work well. These things and liberal applications of booze got me through Thanksgiving with my family and their constant near-compulsive dieting talk. Oh, yeah, and the fact that my mom is obsessed with the Biggest Loser and considers it a truly inspirational TV program. 

Oh, and why does this have a “Christmas” tag? There’s more than one holiday in November/December and people of other religions (including none at all) aren’t magically exempt from fat shaming and diet culture in their family gatherings and holiday celebrations/observances, either. Plus, this is applicable during any holiday, including secular ones like Independence Day (or whatever national-themed holiday you have in your part of the world) or Labor Day or New Year’s (which ever ones you celebrate). 

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