It would be nice if we could get people to understand that mental illness, like physical illness, can be fatal and that fatality is not the fault of the person who is sick. It would be nice if we looked at those people who’s illness caused their suicide not as selfish, but as people who were overcome by an illness they did not have the resources to adequately fight. I’d like it if people stopped trying to prevent suicide by screaming at already direly ill people to keep living so nobody has to feel sad, and think about everyone else’s feelings concerning their illness rather.
It’d be nice if they asked for the reverse, for all those people who we’re not supposed to hurt by taking our lives to think about OUR feelings and what WE’RE going through, to think about how sad they make us with the shit they do to us. It’d be nice if the advice doled out stopped amounting to, “I know you’re in the ninth level of hell right now, but keep dragging yourself over broken glass because if you stop, other people will have sad, upset feelings and that’s more important than the agony you’re in right now.”
It’d be just wonderful if, when someone did end up dying as a result of mental illness, we understood that it can’t always be successfully fought the way cancer can’t always be fought. It’s tragic and so horrible, but it’s not a sin or a shame.
And it would be even nicer if politicians and talking heads on TV gave a shit about mental health care without a mass shooting prompting it. It’d be nice if they mentioned that mentally ill people by FAR are more likely to be the victims of violence than the ones doling it out. It’d be nice if they didn’t wedge our need for care into a discussion about gun control so they can skew it their way. The bullets fly and they’re all nodding and saying, sadly and sagaciously, “We need to fix the mental health care system”. A system they don’t say shit about after the next news cycle.
It’d be nice if it wasn’t so painfully obvious that they’re cool with having a broken mental health care system. Just as long as the misery and need and pain don’t spill over into the lives of people they actually give a shit about. It’s fine if the system is broken to shards. It’s okay if people suffer because they can’t get what they need, or what they can get is abusive either by design or willful neglect.
And just to finish off, it would be fucking spectacular if people would stop using words that describe what the brains of mentally ill people do, what they are, what their realities are like as insults. It’d be nice if they didn’t take those words and use them to describe things that are no where CLOSE to the realities of the people who actually live it because it sounds funny or cute to them. Because it ain’t fucking cute.
This has been a furious rant from Madame Thursday, high queen of the Wall of Text. Enjoy your goddamn day. And take care of yourselves as best you can, if you can. And the ask box is open.
If you ever feel compelled to tell a disabled person that it’s all in their head, please stop. You don’t understand how fucking frustrating it is to have someone erase the suffering you go through day and night with one sentence.
Throughout England people are now divided into Pures and Crazies according to the results of a DNA test, with the Pures living in small Communities cut off from the madness of society, and the Crazies living outside the walls in the squalor and mayhem of the City. Until the age of fifteen, Ana has lived a privileged existence amongst the Pures, but her whole world crumbles when she finds out that there was a mistake with her Pure test. She is actually one of the Crazies, and one day in the near or distant future she will become sick. But Ana has already been promised to Pure-boy Jasper Taurell. Jasper is from a rich and influential family and despite Ana’s defects, wants to be with her. The authorities grant Ana a conditional reprieve. If she is joined to Jasper before her 18th birthday she may stay in the Community until her illness manifests. But if Jasper changes his mind, she will be cast out among the Crazies. As Ana’s joining ceremony looms closer, she dares to hope she will be saved from the horror of the City and live a ‘normal’ life. But then Jasper disappears. Led to believe Jasper has been taken by a strange sect the authorities will not interfere with, Ana sneaks out of her well-guarded Community to find him herself. Her search takes her through the underbelly of society and into the pits of the human soul. And as she delves deeper into the mystery of Jasper’s abduction she uncovers some devastating truths that destroy everything she has grown up to believe, but she also learns to love as she has never loved before.
What the everliving fuck.
I seriously want to look into the cultural phenomenon that’s producing authors who produce these books, because this shit got trendy all of a sudden (not that these messages are new; they’re not, but this is a very specific genre of fuckery we’re looking at here and there’ve been two nearly identical books in two months now)
I NEED BRICKS TO THROW AND FIRE AND MAYBE SOME FUCKING TACKS TO SPIT AT SOMEONE FOR THIS SHITTERY. FUCKING HELL SOMEBODY AT LEAST GET ME SOME DAMN REBAR OR SOMETHING.
I cannot even start, I just can’t. Seriously. “Crazies”?
Why is this fuckery even in existence?
- Holding down a job is not a measure of value.
- Attending school is not a measure of value.
- Whether or not you can “contribute” to society is not a measure of whether or not your life is valuable and worth preserving.
These are standards held up by a society values money and production over everything else. If you think life has any less value or worth because of an inability to do any of the above you re fucking wrong.
Okay. I’m going to try and articulate my rage.
Dammit, I can’t.
The fact that this human waste has the gall to say that the “pro-lifers” are appropriating and fetishizing disability, and then to go on to say “I know what it’s like to be disabled because I grew up poor-and I wouldn’t have chosen to be poor!” is so enraging to me I cannot even articulate it.
How many times can I say it?
I AM NOT SICK.
I AM NOT SUFFERING.
I AM DISABLED, AND MY LIFE HAS VALUE.
I AM ALSO A PERSON WHO CAN BECOME PREGNANT.
I AM CEASELESSLY ERASED IN THIS “DEBATE”.
I DO NOT EXIST IN THIS CONVERSATION EXCEPT AS A FUCKING RAG BETWEEN THE TEETH OF THE “DISABILITY IS A HORROR AND NEEDS TO BE ELIMINATED” PEOPLE AND ON THE OTHER SIDE “DISABILITY IS A BLESSING AND UTERUS’D PEOPLE SHOULD BE FORCED TO HAVE THEM” PEOPLE.
I FUCKING HATE YOU.
I FUCKING HATE YOU.
I FUCKING HATE YOU.
I FUCKING HATE YOU.
It is possible to choose abortion based on a positive screening for genetic disorders because you are morally opposed to inflicting suffering on others.
I support abortion for ANY REASON.
ANY REASON WHATSOEVER THAT BELONGS TO THE PERSON HAVING THE ABORTION.
That is not equivalent to turning the decision to abort a disabled fetus into a UNIVERSAL MORAL IMPERATIVE TO PREVENT SUPPOSED SUFFERING.
Pro-choice ALSO ENCOMPASSES THE RIGHT TO HAVE CHILDREN.
DO I HAVE A FUCKING MORAL IMPERATIVE TO NOT HAVE CHILDREN??? HMMMM?????
WHERE THE FUCK DOES YOUR ARGUMENT LEAD, BITCH?
As an advocate of Birth Control, I wish to take advantage of the present opportunity to point out that the unbalance between the birth rate of the “unfit” and the “fit”, admittedly the greatest present menace to civilization, can never be rectified by the inauguration of a cradle competition between these two classes. In this matter, the example of the inferior classes, the fertility of the feeble-minded, the mentally defective, the poverty-stricken classes, should not be held up for emulation to the mentally and physically fit though less fertile parents of the educated and well-to-do classes. On the contrary, the most urgent problem today is how to limit and discourage the over-fertility of the mentally and physically defective.
YOU MARGARET SANGER-ESQUE, EUGENICIST BUCKET OF HUMAN SHIT.
I get that who we are is shaped by experience and that many disabled people consider disability to be integral to their personalities – just as I see poverty as a formative experience for me – but I doubt they would have chosen to be disabled in the first place. Would they have voluntarily given up able bodies for the wisdom earned from being disabled? Would they refuse treatment, if it were available? Would they choose to suffer disabilities just so that their parents could have the “reward” and “special gift” of raising them?
WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH YOUUUUU
Respecting the rights of disabled people does not mean honoring or celebrating disability itself.
The bolding isn’t even mine.
WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH YOUUUUU
I support abortion for any reason.
I UTTERLY SHIT ON ANYONE WHO TELLS OTHER PEOPLE WHAT TO DO WITH THEIR BODIES.
GUESS WHICH ONE YOU ARE DOING YOU FUCKING SHAMING, MORALISTIC, EUGENICIST ASSHOLE.
I love how the school threatened to suspend the girl while refusing to address the audist bullies who bullied her and other girls for using American Sign Language.
Go fuck yourself, Stonybrook School.
Via ABC News:
School officials have threatened a hearing-impaired girl with suspension if she uses sign language to talk to her friends on the school bus, the girl’s parents say.
Danica Lesko and her parents say sign language is the only way to for the 12-year-old to communicate, especially while riding to school on a noisy bus.
But officials at Stonybrook School — which is not a school for the hearing-impaired — and district officials in Branchburg, N.J., apparently believe signing is a safety hazard. They have sent a letter to the Lesko family ordering Danica to stop using sign language on the school bus or risk a three-day suspension.
The March 30 letter from her principal that said Danica was “doing sign language after being told it wasn’t allowed on the bus.”
The Leskos may file a lawsuit over the sign language ban, claiming officials are violating Danica’s civil rights and violating the Americans with Disabilities Act.
“She has a hearing problem, and now she’s being punished for using sign language,” Mary Ann Lesko, Danica’s mother, told The Star-Ledger of Newark. “It’s absurd.”
Danica’s parents told the paper that other students who rode to school with their daughter made fun of her, and refused to stay in their seats as they teased other girls who were using sign language. They said school officials are singling out Danica and not addressing those who should really be reprimanded.
Schools Officials: Safety First
In a statement released through the school district’s attorney, David Rubin, the Branchburg Board of Education refused to discuss the details of Danica’s case, saying only that its version of events differs from the parents’ version.
However, the board insisted it has not violated anyone’s rights and is only trying to protect other students who must ride on the school bus.
“The Board is committed to providing reasonable accommodations to all students with disabilities, and is satisfied that there has been no violation of that policy in this case,” officials said in the statement. “The Board is also committed to assuring the safety of all students who travel on District buses, and will continue to take appropriate steps to accomplish that goal.”
One deaf-rights advocate said Danica’s parents have a strong basis for a lawsuit because sign language could be a considered a foreign language, and school officials could be violating the girl’s First Amendment right to communicate.
“Why should there be a ban?” asked Charlotte Karras, outreach coordinator for the Edison, N.J.-based Alliance for Disabled in Action. “It’s a violation of her communication rights. She’s said it’s the only way she can communicate with her friends … It’s [the ban] against the ADA and violates the First Amendment and her family can file a discrimination suit citing the Americans With Disabilities Act.”
Karras said her organization would be willing to help the Leskos with any legal action.
Danica’s parents say she began losing her hearing last November, when a classmate allegedly shot a bottle rocket near her ear. They have already sued the Branchburg School District over that incident.
wtf… a safety hazard? why, because folks are fuckin with her? and this AFTER a kid at the school fucked up her hearing in the first place?
Maybe if the bus monitors and and teachers told them lil muhfuckas to cut the shit it wouldn’t have happened in first place. and now they need to
tellmake those little assholes tostfu and leave her alone.
fuck is wrong with people.
things that are not inherently awful or something you should feel ashamed of:
- being white
- being male
- being cisgendered
- being straight or heteronormative
- being able bodied
- being neurotypical
- being conventionally attractive
things that suck and you should feel ashamed of:
- denying the privilege that comes with being any of those things
- attempting to highlight your thoughts, views, ideas, experiences, etc, over those of the people you have privilege over when discussing their oppression
- complaining whenever someone of the oppressed group calls you out
- mislabeling, misgendering, or using slurs to refer to said oppressed group
- trying to showcase your allyship by over-exaggerating your beliefs or vying for attention for acting like a decent person
it’s really that simple.
YES, THANK YOU.
I just want to send this memo out to everyone who thinks that being told, as a privileged person, to please SHUT UP is being told they should be ashamed for being privileged.
You can’t help being white. You CAN help acting like a jackass and treating others like shit. That’s the point. Recognize that you have privilege, that you shouldn’t, that it hurts others, and act accordingly.
Any day now they’re going to link every thing negative ever to obesity, decide we’re all suffering from autism & then declare martial law so they can control every morsel & every thought. I’m only half joking. These fuckshit studies just aggravate the shit out of me.
Where do I even start?
1. With the shaming of fat uterus-bearers who give birth. NOT ALL THOSE WITH UTERUSES ARE WOMEN, OKAY? Fucking hell. Let’s make sure we pile more guilt onto those who give birth, huh. Because we wouldn’t want to shift the focus to a society that basically craps on birth givers, ties their hands behind their backs, puts a two ton weight on their shoulders and then tells them to run a marathon without getting out of breath or they’re THE WORST PARENTS/BIRTH GIVERS EVER AND RUINING THEIR CHILDREN 4 LYYYYYYYYYYFE!
2. The extremely ableist idea that autism is so horrible and awful and unthinkable and monstrous that *gasp* we must find what causes it so that we can eradicate it from the human race because *gasp* teh_autizimmms_oh_noesssss!
3. If I had to pick one secret weapon of the kyriarchy that is currently doing untold damage, it would be PISS POOR SCIENCE REPORTING. That article is such bullshit. The title is bullshit, because if you scroll down you see that hypertension, gestational diabetes, anti-depressant use, and closely spaced pregnancies have also been indicated (NOT CONCLUSIVELY PROVEN) to be associated with autism, and even one of the researchers says that the study really doesn’t cause if it causes or is just related or not.
3b. Associated with and CAUSES are not the same fucking thing. Christ on a cracker, people. Corellation is not causation. It’s like saying that going to a hospital can cause a person to go into labor because so many people in labor are in hospitals. Umm, no. That’s not what causes that. At all. In fact, it’s the other way around. And that’s with something that we understand fairly well. Now, take a delicate, intricate, and multi-causal biological process and try to apply that logic. See how you could get some FUCKED UP RESULTS?
4. I just don’t even know HOW TO CAN WITH THIS BULLSHIT ANYMORE.
[photo: black and white image of a bearded, white, tattoo’d, bespectacled person wearing a black tshirt, overalls and cap, sitting in a motorized mobility scooter, clasping their hands together while smiling big, with their forearm crutches sticking up behind them; text reads: “Know what i’m tired of? Images of disabled people doing random things, turned into “inspiration porn”. These images (e.g. children joyfully running with their prosthetic legs, someone painting with their toes, an elder skiing, etc), are then emblazoned with text like “what’s your excuse?”, “your excuse is invalid”, “if ___ can do it, why can’t you?” and other gems. They call on non-disabled people to buck up and stop making excuses for not doing something, and guilt other disabled folks into feeling like crap for not being able to pull themselves up by the proverbial bootstraps & “just do it”. These images & sentiments are an ableist tool. They exceptionalize disabled people based in ablesist notions of accomplishment & worth. They build on & reenforce able bodied pitydom of gimps. Just fucking stop it ok? We’re just doing our thing, yknow? We are not a goddamn guilt-trip tool to get you to do stuff. Please, if you need to use gimps as a tool to get you to do stuff, yer using the wrong starting point. (*for example, in this photo, i am simply enjoying a moment with a friend… I AM NOT YOUR INSPIRATION!)”]
not sure why people would post this without the image description when there was one right there in the original blog post to use…
ableism— it’s not just lazy, it’s incredibly lazy.
I believe in…
Avocados, not Advil
Beans, not Benadryl
Cauliflower, not coedene
Dragonfruit, not Dramamine
Eggplant, not epitol
Flax seeds, not Fortical
Grains, not Glucotrol
Hummus, not heparin
Iceberg lettuce, not ibuprofen
Juniper berries, not jolessa
Kale, not Keppra
Lemons, not Lunesta
Mushrooms, not Motrin
Nuts, not Nolvadex
Oats, not oxycodone
Peas, not Prozac
Quinoa, not Questran
Radishes, not Ritalin
Spinach, not Sporanax
Tofu, not Tylenol
Ugli fruit, not Ultracet
Vanilla, not Valtrex
Watermelon, not warfarin
Xigua melon, not Xanax
Yams, not Yaz
Zucchini, not Zeltrixa
Food is the best medicine.
Speaking from the perspective of a potential future doctor, if ever you dare diss medicine and tout some strict hippie ~fuck medicine!!! natural foods ftw!!!~ lifestyle, I will shank you.
And then when you get sick, I will still offer to provide you care, because I am ethical, even if you are a dumbass who, to some degree, does not deserve the care and medicine I provide to you.
This world is not meant for all 7 billion people to live oh-so-happily off of only fresh vegetables and soy, because people get sick, and they will continue to get sick, sick to the point where they need medicine, not carrots.
How privileged of you to suppose that medicine’s value is easily beat by some good food? I like my food fresh and organic, too, but food has been around for countless eons, and advanced medicine has been around for only several centuries, comparatively. The rapid development of this world and standards of living is nearly simultaneous to the advancements and development of medicine.
Hell, people who lived farmers’ and cavemen’s diets (known today to be your typical all-natural, homeopathic diet) used to die of the common cold. And now they don’t. Why?
That is all.
For reals. Valid criticisms can be levied against our ridiculous pharmaceutical industry, but saying “fuck medicine yo!” outright is like no.
Tofu’s not going to get rid of a headache for you. I should know because I live in a place where there’s always fucking tofu and people always have fucking headaches.
that awkward moment when someone offers peas as a substitute for an antidepressant
You know, I am now up to three shots of heparin a day, which are, btw, seriously painful, in an effort to keep myself alive long enough to successfully deliver my baby. Hummus would not prevent me from throwing a fatal blood clot, because hummus does not have anti-coagulant properties.
Neither does watermelon, and thank god for warfarin, because once the baby is delivered I can STOP GIVING MYSELF SHOTS and go back to my normal oral medication, which I will need to use for the rest of my life to get the best possible chance of extending that life.
I would honestly like to smack the OP in the face. Or possibly give them a shot.
Like, seriously. Who is this big of an asshole?
I’d be shocked, but I’ve been a mom for going on 13 years now and I have met a lot of people who say this kind of dumb shit. I hate to break it to you bb, but the Hippie Mommy Mafia is everywhere & they will have plenty of things to say to you that are even more ridiculous about what you feed your kid.
So which food item would this list recommend to stop my furious eye twitching? Or for the resulting injuries when I fire FLAMING STONEWORK at people who take this shit seriously.
You want me to eat vegetables instead of taking psychiatric meds which are currently keeping me able to function? Fuck you. Fuck you fuck you. Just say that you want me dead because you think you’re better than me so at least you’ll be an honest asshole. Skip the song and dance. Just say it, okay? Just say, “Lol. I’m rich and privileged and so superior and my food is better. All these medicines that keep you inferior people around irritate me. Just die sooner, thanks!”
Because that’s what you really mean.
“A police officer killed an elderly, deaf and mentally disabled man riding his bicycle by shooting him with a Taser stun gun after he failed to obey instructions to stop.
Roger Anthony, 61, was killed as he made his way home in Scotland Neck, South Carolina, after officers responded to a 911 call about a man who had fallen off his bicycle in a car park.
The caller told dispatchers that the man appeared drunk and that it looked like he had hurt himself.
Officers said they repeatedly told Mr Anthony to get off his bike, but when he didn’t respond, they shocked him.
The state Office of the Medical Examiner hasn’t yet determined a cause of death.
Family members claim Mr Anthony had hearing problems and suffered from seizures. Now they’re considering whether to file a lawsuit against the town.
His brother Michael said: ‘What did they tase him for? It’s hurting me. It’s really hurting me.’”
I knew even before I clicked the link that Roger Anthony was a black man.
Fuck the police.
As soon as I saw that they’d been called to help him & wound up killing him I knew the deal.
[Image: Clip art of the iconic Microsoft Word paperclip, a cartoon-like paperclip with eyes and eyebrows in front of a piece of legal paper. Above the paperclip is a text bubble with bullet points that says: “It looks like you’re not trying to adhere to the capitalistic norms of productivity and worth. Would you like me to help you fit in better?
*How can you be happy if you don’t work?
*Don’t you feel bad making your family/partner support you?
*I’m sure you could find a job if you just sipped some tea and looked harder.
*But you can go to the store! I don’t understand why you can’t work!]
Privileged Paperclip found here.
Once again, we see how being short is haaaaaaaaaard.
Being short is not a disability. You know this. Now spare a thought about how this joke of yours trivializes what people with real physical disabilities go through every single day, trying to navigate a world that works against them. I’m pretty sure their struggle doesn’t exist to be cheapened into a joke about standing on your tippy toes.
Cosign on this. Seriously? Get a step ladder.
This is the casual ableism that I was talking about, that’s just ignored to the point where it is basically accepted here.
My life, my struggles, and the shit that is done to try and make up for it, are not here to be a fodder for some fucking joke. The ADA is in place so people like me, people with disabilities, can have a chance at fair fucking treatment in places where it usually isn’t.
I am so fucking sick of people treating this shit, my fucking life, like it is a goddamned fucking joke.
[Image: A person of East Asian descent wearing glasses holding up a hand written sign that says: “I have a Chronic life long disability - I cannot work most jobs, and I am afraid for my future. Will people believe me if it’s not obvious? I am the 99 Per cent. Occupywallst.org]
I see you completely disregarded the message I appended to my submission asking you to include image descriptions for people with vision problems. I am not surprised, but I am disappointed, because that makes it all too obvious that you don’t give two shits about a significant portion of the people who belong in the 99% you claim to represent.
Ugh. Such fail. (Not the sign, but the lack of image description when requested). This is why when people accuse those with disabilities of complaining when they should “just ask!”, I roll my eyes and don’t even bother. Because anyone who thinks that we live in this perfect shiny world where accessibility requests don’t get denied or met with hostility is obviously living in the privilege bubble and needs to come out of it. Quickly.
Non suicidal people, do me a favour
don’t talk about suicide as if you have any idea what the fuck you’re talking about
because you don’t
And I say this as a suicidal person who has lost people to suicide
Suicide shaming- this bullshit about how suicide is ‘100% preventable’, the constant guilting of people who know suicidal people “if you’d just reach out you could stop them killing themselves!!!” and the shaming of those who are themselves suicidal “it’s selfish”, “it’s wrong!”, etfuckingcetera-
YEAH, THIS NEEDS TO STOP.
Give out information of suicide hotlines or something. Offer to listen to people if you feel able to. But don’t make cutesy posts about how suicide is preventable, or unquestionably terrible, or whatever.
This is a thing that needs to be said more often I think.
All of this. Just all of it. I bolded the really important bit.