It would be nice if we could get people to understand that mental illness, like physical illness, can be fatal and that fatality is not the fault of the person who is sick. It would be nice if we looked at those people who’s illness caused their suicide not as selfish, but as people who were overcome by an illness they did not have the resources to adequately fight. I’d like it if people stopped trying to prevent suicide by screaming at already direly ill people to keep living so nobody has to feel sad, and think about everyone else’s feelings concerning their illness rather.
It’d be nice if they asked for the reverse, for all those people who we’re not supposed to hurt by taking our lives to think about OUR feelings and what WE’RE going through, to think about how sad they make us with the shit they do to us. It’d be nice if the advice doled out stopped amounting to, “I know you’re in the ninth level of hell right now, but keep dragging yourself over broken glass because if you stop, other people will have sad, upset feelings and that’s more important than the agony you’re in right now.”
It’d be just wonderful if, when someone did end up dying as a result of mental illness, we understood that it can’t always be successfully fought the way cancer can’t always be fought. It’s tragic and so horrible, but it’s not a sin or a shame.
And it would be even nicer if politicians and talking heads on TV gave a shit about mental health care without a mass shooting prompting it. It’d be nice if they mentioned that mentally ill people by FAR are more likely to be the victims of violence than the ones doling it out. It’d be nice if they didn’t wedge our need for care into a discussion about gun control so they can skew it their way. The bullets fly and they’re all nodding and saying, sadly and sagaciously, “We need to fix the mental health care system”. A system they don’t say shit about after the next news cycle.
It’d be nice if it wasn’t so painfully obvious that they’re cool with having a broken mental health care system. Just as long as the misery and need and pain don’t spill over into the lives of people they actually give a shit about. It’s fine if the system is broken to shards. It’s okay if people suffer because they can’t get what they need, or what they can get is abusive either by design or willful neglect.
And just to finish off, it would be fucking spectacular if people would stop using words that describe what the brains of mentally ill people do, what they are, what their realities are like as insults. It’d be nice if they didn’t take those words and use them to describe things that are no where CLOSE to the realities of the people who actually live it because it sounds funny or cute to them. Because it ain’t fucking cute.
This has been a furious rant from Madame Thursday, high queen of the Wall of Text. Enjoy your goddamn day. And take care of yourselves as best you can, if you can. And the ask box is open.