Jul. 14, 2011 at 9:41am with 39 notes
Reblogged from allthechocolatesinthebox
Gerard Butler is "not gay, but not straight"

frankandhiskind:

Seriously, is it THAT hard to say “bisexual”. 

Maybe bisexual isn’t the word for what he identifies as. For all you know, he identifies as pansexual or polysexual or something else - but doesn’t feel like having to go into Sexuality 101 for the press and doesn’t want to open that door because he is a very public figure and well, let’s face it, if someone says “I’m pansexual” or “I’m polysexual” people often don’t know what they’re talking about or think they’re trying to be cool. And don’t get me started on the really ignorant reactions to things like demisexuality.

I realize the article didn’t give much detail, but bisexuality or any of the non-monosexualities are not just a halfway point between straight and gay or the only option for not being straight or gay/lesbian. They’re not just the catch-all for “none of the above”.

Sexuality is really quite difficult. Labels and identities should not be applied to people because they fit someone else’s definition of something. The word “bisexual” doesn’t mean the same everywhere and to everyone. You can’t just say “well, you meet the technical requirements, so you should ID’ as bi.”

Maybe it’s hard to say bisexual because that’s not what he is. “Been with men and been with women” does not actually automatically equal bisexual.

The only thing that equals bisexual is “I identify as bisexual”. And if Gerard Butler wants to use the word or not, or if he doesn’t want to use any words and he just wants to enjoy his sexuality and his partners and what not, that’s fine by me.

  1. frankandhiskind reblogged this from indigoferarchived and added:
    I didn’t mean to define his sexuality for him. I just think that given the fact that he’s had relationships with both...
  2. indigoferarchived reblogged this from ravenqueers and added:
    No, but given the amount of bisexual erasure in media and culture, it would be nice if he actually engaged with it. “Not...
  3. ravenqueers reblogged this from nowisgreater and added:
    No one gets to define it for him.
  4. nowisgreater reblogged this from madamethursday and added:
    Seriously. He specifically says in the interview that he doesn’t know how to define his sexuality. No one gets to define...
  5. madamethursday reblogged this from allthechocolatesinthebox and added:
    Maybe bisexual isn’t the word for what he identifies as. For all you know, he identifies as pansexual or polysexual or...
  6. toleratingtea reblogged this from allthechocolatesinthebox and added:
    “No I’m not. I don’t know myself what I am so it can be bewildering to see that being plugged.” Seriously, is it THAT...
  7. allthechocolatesinthebox reblogged this from frankandhiskind
  8. twitchypaws reblogged this from stfubiphobia and added:
    But… he didn’t say he was bisexual. I would actually have issues with the article if it did say “Gerard Butler is...
  9. tatsuyoujo reblogged this from stfubiphobia and added:
    Saying “bisexual” is like saying “cunt” You don’t say that word.
  10. jadelyn reblogged this from stfubiphobia and added:
    Except if you read what he actually said, he said “I don’t know myself what I am” so, just as we would like others not...
  11. addictionsandoddities reblogged this from frankandhiskind and added:
    Yeah, people seem to be afraid...bisexual. ¬¬’
  12. claudia-in-wonderland reblogged this from brandnew-fuckyou
  13. brandnew-fuckyou reblogged this from stfubiphobia and added:
    mmm Gerard Butlerr is bisexual. unnfff. brb fapping
  14. stfubiphobia reblogged this from frankandhiskind and added:
    right????
  15. helpimtrappedontheinternet reblogged this from frankandhiskind and added:
    Apparently, it is…-.-
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