Anonymous asked: My apologies. I remember reading one blog that said heterosexuals shouldn't ask people from the LGBTQ+ community questions regarding their sexuality and allies should be explaining it, not the LGBTQ+ community. I guess it's different for every person, and I'll definitely talk to you if I have any questions, thanks!

Okay, no. I think you may have misunderstood whatever you read because I, as a queer woman, definitely do not want ANYONE who isn’t me explaining my sexuality to others. Especially not people who aren’t queer or in some way a GSM (gender/sexual minority). 

This is why I’m not all about the word “ally” and allies in general. I think there’s straight people who want to do right and learn how to deal with their queer hate and trans hate that’s taught by a society that has these issues and there are people who don’t. Those who do may learn how to communicate to other straight people when they’re out of line or doing something wrong or saying, “Hey, not cool, you need to be treating GSM folks with respect.”

But explaining sexuality is not for allies or anyone except individuals or communities to do, and do for themselves. 

I hope this wasn’t too lecture-y or anything, but that’s how I feel about it and see it. 

And again, I’m open for questions that I can answer. And if I can’t, I’ll see what I can point you to. You’ve acted pretty respectfully up ‘til now and I think maybe you misread a bit or maybe need to re-read whatever it was you read. I do this myself when it comes to areas where I’m privileged, so that’s my advice. 

Hope it’s helpful!

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