My tumblr url/name just means that I was born on a Thursday, and in the old poem about “Monday’s child…etc”, I have “far to go”. But since I’m not really a child, I figured madame would be better. Hence, Madame Thursday. I’ve come a long way and I’ve got even farther to go.
Basic stats: pronouns: she/her or them/they. cis. pansexual. fat as in fantastic. white. a Southern girl who used to be a New Yorker who’s back in the South again (North Carolina). writer. not neurotypical. taurus. fantastic freak of nature.
As a great woman once said, “you should either know your shit or be willing to change your mind a lot. Hopefully? Both.” So that’s what I’m going to do. I’m going to stand my ground in some places and concede the point in others. It all depends. I’m learning when to say “fuck you, I won’t give up” and when to say “I’m sorry, I was wrong, I’m going to do better”.
Sometimes I hit it out of the park and sometimes I completely fuck up. I try to admit my fuck ups, especially when they’re hurtful to other people. And I try to be proud of my home runs. Even though I hate sports and sports metaphors.
Religiously and politically, I don’t have a name for what I am. Not sure what the belief that we ought to treat each other not as we’d want to be treated but as they ask us to treat them is actually called. I believe in the right of every human being to have clothing, food, shelter, education, health care and safe spaces just for showing up and being human. Amongst other things.
I don’t know what the name for “I don’t know if there’s a God or what happens after we die, so I try to do my best with what I have while I’m alive and I let other people’s business with their god/ess/es be their own and not mine” is called, either.
My basic philosophy in life is to do no harm to others, and, time permitting, do good, beautiful things. But learning about all the harm I’m capable of and teaching myself not to do it, well, that’s a bit of a full time job. But the alternative (hurting people) is worse. So I do my best.
Or, as Eddie Izzard once reported St. Paul to have said: “Don’t do bad things, only do good things. Always treat your neighbor like someone who lives near to you. Never put a sock in a toaster. Never put jam on a magnet. Never throw your Granny in a bag. Never suck all the juice out of a vampire. Never lean over on Tuesday. Lots of other things, but I’ve gotta go and have a Mars bar now…”
Anything else, you’re more than welcome to ask me, though you’re likely to get a bad response or none at all if your basic complaint is that I care too much about something or am taking it too seriously or am too “politically correct”.
Because telling me that I respect and give a shit about other human beings too much means the problem is you, not me.
If I’ve said something that is hurtful, offensive, or otherwise ass showing, please let me know if you can and want to. I understand why you might not want to engage with me, but I will do my utmost to sit down, shut up, and listen - especially if it’s an area where I’m privileged and you aren’t. I try to really check all my posts and commentary before hitting the “post” button, but as with all human beings, I’m not perfect. I fuck up. I want to know when I do so that I can offer you the apology you deserve if you want it and never do that thing or say that thing again.
As for those who think I over think and over analyze? I can only quote the most awesome eshusplayground for the official policy here towards such attitudes:
There is no such thing as “overthinking” or “over-analyzing” arts, media, and entertainment. If you don’t want to talk about things like race, gender, sexuality, class, and disability in arts and entertainment, you are free to exercise your right to stay the fuck out of the discussion.