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butchimightbe:

She has never been convicted of a crime but they want to move her to near isolation in an adult mens prison. This CANNOT happen. Here is a more in depth article: http://feministing.com/2014/04/14/how-the-connecticut-department-of-children-families-is-failing-a-trans-girl-of-color/

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I’m really not going to take seriously anyone who gets into a discussion concerning sexual assault, rape, and child abuse who channels mountains of their energy and time into screaming at people who didn’t help in the way they think that person should help but says SWEET SHIT ALL about the actual perpetrator. I’m not dealing with you assholes who don’t begin and end with the fact that the person who has the absolute responsibility for stopping this and giving redress is the abuser, the assailant.

Until I see some people acknowledging that rapists are responsible for stopping rape, I’m done with you. None of your “yeah, but..” statements. None of this mumbling and additions and qualifications and extra clauses attached. NO.

RAPISTS ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR STOPPING RAPE BOTH NOW AND IN THE FUTURE. ABUSERS ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR STOPPING ABUSE BOTH NOW AND IN THE FUTURE. 

No. Until you begin and end with the that fact, you’re useless and you’re part of the problem. 

Do not go guns blazing on someone who helped the best they could and say they did HELPING wrong because it didn’t account for your fantasy that cops and authority figures are actually helpful and will listen. 

Do not do this so much that the predator goes unmentioned. I wanna talk about the predator. I wanna talk about why. I wanna talk about how rape culture is at work. I wanna talk about how we keep emphasizing that it’s the rapist’s (or potential rapist’s) responsibility to stop rape. 

Do not do this so that you treat the predator like some force of nature that can’t control himself, so others have this responsibility to account for it and make sure they take the right steps to stop damage. Predators are not earthquakes or hurricanes. They are people who know what they’re doing and do it anyway. 

Do not do this so that you just prove to said predators that they just need to let the ensuing clawing, biting and screaming ensue as they slide away to go lay shallow in the water, waiting to snap again like an alligator. Because they know that you’re not going to turn your eyes to them and go, “LET’S GET THIS MOTHERFUCKER RIGHT THE FUCKING FUCK NOW”. They know you’re gonna be arguing with the people who do their best in a fucked up world where help is not as available as you seem to think. 

Do not do this so that people think that everyone is even going to automatically know exactly what to do if a kid comes to them for help. I don’t remember ever seeing any PSA’s or brochures or taking a class or anything that says “what to do if a kid being pursued by a predator comes to you for protection: a guide to your legal and ethical obligations”. I don’t see people handing out flyers regularly letting people know what they should do if not only does a kid or any victim of any age ask, but what to do when you damn well know the police or other authorities (like ones in schools, for example) are going to be useless. 

Do not do this so that people start thinking that the obligation to report is so overriding that they can ignore a victim’s stated wishes and push at them until they report to the people they “should” be reporting to in your scenarios based on a world that’s much nicer to victims than the one we’re in. Let’s be clear. When a victim says “no, I don’t want this”, you make that law. When a kid says they don’t want to tell, you say “okay, you have a right to do what makes you feel safest and least distressed right now”. 

News alert: parents are not always good at their jobs. Some parents are themselves predators and abusers. Some parents are good but their initial reactions are just going to cause more trauma and the last thing some kids need is to have to shoulder their parent’s anger or fear or disappointment or disbelief while trying to cope with their own feelings. Kids know their parents, and are less wrong about the reactions of said parents than people seem to think. 

More over, no one, not even a parent, is so entitled to be lord and master of every little inch of a victim and their life that they can cause that victim’s wishes to be disregarded entirely in order that they might make sure their supposed “right” to know every damn thing is upheld. 

The predator is responsible for stopping themselves. The rapist is responsible for stopping rape. The abuser is responsible for making sure there is no future abuse. The criminal justice system is responsible for making sure it can be fair and effective in finding and removing predators from circulation. No one owes any of these people efforts to counteract their failures.

What is owed is the time, space, and support a victim needs. What is owed is careful adherence to the victim’s wishes. What is owed is doing one’s best to make sure the victim is mentally and physically safe and healthy as much as you can. 

If a victim wants to call the cops or tell parents or take out a billboard sign, then you say, “All right, let’s go get this done, what can I do to make this easier on you?”

If a victim never wants to tell anyone, then you say, “All right, that’s perfectly valid and we won’t tell anyone before you’re ready to. This is your business, and you do what’s best for you. Don’t worry about anyone else.”

If a victim isn’t sure, you say, “Well, I can give you my opinions if you want them, but you decide what’s best for you and no matter what, I’ve got your back and will support you.”

You don’t fucking drag them to the nearest cop. You don’t say “no, don’t tell at all”. You don’t try to sell them something. 

You just listen and act. 

And when it comes time to start screaming down the walls (and there is a time), you direct your megaphones at the predators. 

Not someone who helped (but not to your arbitrary and ill informed standards), not the victim, not bystanders, not anyone but the predators and the criminal justice system themselves. 

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shwetanarayan:

nitanahkohe:

A new study by researchers at the University of Minnesota have uncovered a disquieting racial gap when it comes to exposure to air pollution, the MinnPost reports. Examining air-pollution exposure across racial, economic, educational and other relevant categories, researchers realized that race and income had the greatest impact on exposure, with people of color being exposed to 38 percent more outdoor nitrogen oxide from vehicle exhaust and power plants than their white counterparts. Exposure has been linked to higher rates of asthma and heart disease. “The main ones are race and income, and they both matter,” lead researcher Julian Marshall, an associate professor at the university, told the MinnPost in an interview. “In our findings, however, race matters more than income.”

“The health impacts from the difference in levels between whites and nonwhites found in the study are substantial,” the study states, according to the site. “For example, researchers estimate that if nonwhites breathed the lower NO2 [nitrogen] levels experienced by whites, it would prevent 7,000 deaths from heart disease alone among nonwhites each year.”

"Startling". Uh huh.To whom?

To refer back to my earlier link, AYKB viewpoint isn’t just central to fictional narratives, it’s embedded in so-called objective reporting too.

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wheninlust:

madamethursday:

You know what, I’ve never met any who was anti-FA who wasn’t motivated by hate and the desire to make sure fat people experience as much pain as possible.

There seem to be two kinds: the open sadist and the moral crusader.

The open sadist makes no bones about hating fat people and wishing they…

Well, no… I don’t quite fall into either of those categories. Personally, I’m anti-fat acceptance becauase it lowers the standards of society as a whole. It perpetuates the de-evolution of humanity as a species. It demonizes natural, feminine beauty. And no, putting on red lipstick and calling it classic does not count. 

Call it hate if you must, however the truth remains.

Turns out, I must. Not because I think I’m gonna convince a total douchewad like yourself to morph into a decent person (you’re not a decent person, you’re a very bad person), but because when people see the notes on this thing, I want them to know that no, they don’t have to just accept when people like you say shit like this. I want them to know they can push back, I want them to know you can get called out and that fighting your really creepy and frankly warped brand of sadism is worth it, in and of itself. Because it ain’t about you, it’s about us and what we need and want. 

Fucker, you totally belong in that first category. You can’t pretend you’re not a really scary sadist who’s apparently hellbent on the human race being “pure” and “more evolved” by carving away people you find unacceptable, but the face remains that you’re full of shit. You’re sadist who picked up some wretched, disgusting form of what people have been using for centuries to justify genocide and went with it. When I can neatly align what you’re saying with what people say when they round up thousands of people and execute them, you need to consider that you’re evil. 

You’re talking about fat people as being subhuman, and you’re talking about it as if fat is genetically transmitted. You’re talking about wanting to carve away part of the human race. I known some people who’ve thought that same thing.

You’re also talking about “natural feminine beauty”. If you believe that’s even a thing, something is deeply wrong with you and you’re not paying attention. What we consider beautiful for women is so totally shaped by society. What you think about fat people is what society told you to think.

Saw your blog. Wow. Skinny white chicks as “natural beauty”. Please, allow me to laugh harder at how much you’re buying into ever goddamn lie society has told you, clinging to it to somehow bolster yourself because you have no innate virtue.

People who talk like mass murderers and worship the forms of WHITE women as beautiful need to get the fuck out.  

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[Gifset: Laverne Cox speaks at the GLAAD media awards, she says,

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saintcheshire:

So I just got back last night from a brony convention in San Francisco. I was working a booth for a vendor friend, and let me tell you what happened:

We met a little girl who was there with her family. She got a button drawn at our booth, told us all about her favorite ponies, and was overall just too damn cute. She had an MLP lanyard filled with pins she’d gotten in the vendor’s room, and gave me a Fluttershy pin because she liked my cosplay. She ended up just hanging out with us for a while and bein’ super cute. We call her Babby because she’s 11 and precious.

The next day, she runs up to the booth, terrified, and asks if she can please hide under our table for a few minutes. Turns out a dude had been following her around the con all day, and tried to get her to come up to his hotel room. Alone. She tells us she thought he was okay at first because he was wearing an MLP shirt, but she didn’t want to go anywhere with him, and he made her uneasy. At one point, after she’d refused, he grabbed her arm in the elevators and tried to get her to follow him. She ran, and now she wants somewhere to hide.

We tell her of course, hurry her behind our booth and fucking station ourselves around her because she’s eleven years old and all of us are prepared to physically attack the human trashheap who tries to fuck with her. We’re all dressed up in wings and ears and we’re 100000% prepared to rip them off and launch across that table to defend this kid. Eventually this very large dude strolls by, very obviously looking around, and she quietly points him out to us. At this point I’m ready to set him on fire, but when I ask if she needs me to go report him, she shakes her head. She doesn’t want to get in trouble, or make anyone mad.

We see him a few more times over the course of the day, because he keeps meandering over to our booth and just casually looking around. Eventually he actually stops to take a flier from our table and asks us a question, and we coldly send him on his way. We start sending a coworker with Babby whenever her parents aren’t around and she wants to go check out artist’s alley or the vendor’s hall. Because otherwise she’s not safe. She can’t run around and freely enjoy a convention about a show aimed at her, because instead of being surrounded by peers she’s somehow surrounded by men who pose a threat to her.

My point here: this is why I fucking hate “bronies.” Because grown-ass men are flooding into a space carved out for children—often little girls—and are making it unsafe for them.

I met a lot of non-awful people there, of course. I met a lot of parents and older siblings. A lot of adorable little boys who were happy to empathize with female characters, and a lot of little kids who wanted a picture with cosplays of their favorite pony. I met a lot of people who were cool and nice and just liked cartoons. I met a male Pinkie Pie cosplayer with a Fluttershy lady-friend who juggled and spun plates and was happy to entertain kids, and were generally just really cool people.

But I also met a lot of skeevy dudebros. A lot of guys in fedoras loudly discussing sexual shit in a room with children. Guys who drew/sold/displayed really fucking inappropriate “fanart,” including gross bodypillows that had no purpose in a little kids’ toy convention. I met a guy who gushed with absolute glee about the pleasure he derives from “corrupting innocence.” I met a lot of people who wanted to take something sweet and nice for children and make it about THEM. A lot of guys who wanted to make it about their dicks. People who made it UNSAFE for the intended audience to even be in attendance.

So yeah. If you call yourself a brony, I’m prolly not gonna trust you. Because I’ve seen y’all in action, and I am not impressed. Frankly I’m infuriated. This is like a bunch of gross neckbeards swarming Disneyland and shoving kids out of the way so they can grope Cinderella, and finding nothing wrong with it because they think they’re entitled to it.

My Little Pony is a really cute show with a lot of nice messages for kids, and gross brony shitweasels are trying to fucking take it from them by force. And I will fight them.

wHOA WHOA WHOA WHOAAAAAAAA!!!!!

hold up.

wait a minute here.

you’ve made a fantastic point here and all, but listen, are YOU TELLING ME. THAT AN ELEVEN YEAR OLD GIRL RAN TO YOU. TERRIFIED. JUST NEARLY GOT ABDUCTED. BY A STRANGER, AN ADULT MAN. WHO TOUCHED HER. ALONE IN  AN ELEVATOR.

and you let that predator walk free?

the little girl is scared of reporting him and you just go with it? what the fuck. whAT THE FUCK. THAT LITTLE GIRL ISN’T THE ONLY LITTLE GIRL WHO’S IN DANGER. 

LISTEN YA’LL YOU CAN MAKE ALL THE GREAT POINTS YOU WANT ON TUMBLR BUT IF YOU MEET A CHILD WHO CONFIDES IN YOU THEY FEEL UNSAFE, EXPLICITLY TELL YOU A GROWN MAN IS HUNTING THEM OUT TO DO AWFUL THINGS TO THEM AND LITERALLY ABDUCT THEM, WHAT THE FUCK? YOU GET THAT PIECE OF SHIT IN JAIL. YOU HAVE SOMEONE KEEP HIM BUSY AND YOU GET THE FUCKING COPS. WHERE WERE HER PARENTS?? YOU ARE AN ADULT!!!! ACT LIKE ONE AND PROTECT LITTLE GIRLS AT ALL COSTS!! WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH YOU???? THAT GUY WAS FREE TO WALK OUT OF THERE AND CONTINUE BEING A GODDAMN PREDATOR I’M

…yeah, someone should have actually done something about that scumbag.  Keep in mind that the bystander effect is a thing, and don’t be yet another bystander.

what the fuck is wrong with op seriously

hey, OP, you could possibly still do something about this. if you saw the guy so often you could probably describe him to cops and con organisers and shit. maybe they had cameras running they can get images of the guy from. maybe other guests did.

and not giving little girls the idea that not reporting predators when you have other adults literally surrounding you to keep you safe is the right choice. that’d probably be good too.

Fuck the commenters. Because you know what? I bet a lot of other bronies witnessed this as well and did shit all. At least the OP and her friends physically guarded this child. They were not bystanders by any means and fuck you again. 

You keep saying “get him thrown in jail” but you know how rarely that ever happens? Because con organizers are very likely to take a skeptical if outright hostile and useless stance towards this and these women know it. 

Not to mention that if they did get a cop to mosey on down there, this eleven year old kid would have to try to articulate what happened and the cop would say “there’s no evidence” and “if I didn’t see anything, I can’t help you” and “it’s her word against his”. 

I’ve had friends who were grown ass women when they reported rapes that they had good evidence for and they got cops telling them not to bother filing a report, there was nothing the police could do anyway.

So don’t act like the option to “tell” someone about this is totally there and totally reliable. Don’t act like con organizers who run these things weren’t already making it clear that they were willing to cater to bronies by letting them do all those things without saying “hey, keep it kid friendly” or “watch your merchandise, there are kids around”.

You keep talking like there’s this perfect system that’s totally in favor of victims that will act swiftly to protect the well being of little girl who experience an attempt at an assault or even actually are assaulted/raped.

There’s not. Okay. You keep acting like there was good, reliable help to get in the first place.

I’m here to tell you THERE IS NOT. I was targeted by a grown ass man who picked me up in a fandom meant for kids when I was 13/14 years old. And let me tell you, there ain’t help to get. Because we live in a system where the onus is on the victim to prove, to a standard that juries seeking death penalties aren’t held to, that they were not only raped/assaulted but that they were “good” victims who didn’t do anything wrong. 

This kid WOULD have been asked if she’d done anything to make this man think she wanted to go to his room. This kid WOULD have had it implied or outright said over and over again that maybe she “tempted” him. 

Moreover, this kid was already traumatized and hiding in a booth. You really think she’s gonna be able give a statement to the police that they’ll take seriously?

Teaching a kid not to trust the police is a fucking survival skill for all too many kids on this planet and in the U.S. So don’t yell at these women because, when faced with a system that would’ve ground this kid into dust and just added to her trauma, they decided to roll with what made the kid feel safest and most at ease and took it upon themselves TO PHYSICALLY GUARD HER. 

What they taught this kid is to trust her instincts on who to trust and who not to trust. They taught this kid that she was perfectly RIGHT to know who to run to in an emergency and who to run FROM in one. 

So just fuck y’all who are more concerned with yelling at the OP for what she didn’t do rather than maybe concentrating that energy on telling bronies and all the other predators of the world not to fucking grab 11-year-old girls. If people put that much vehemence into stopping rape culture, there wouldn’t be this shit at all. 

But nope, let’s blame the one person who ACTUALLY DID SOMETHING USEFUL. 

I do think the OP should have alerted the event organizers, the police and the child’s parents, (if possible). I think it’s a really problematic thing to say that a child is unable to relate their experiences to adults. It’s not okay to assume that adults would not help (the OP has, so why not others?) 

In my experience, as both an 10-year old being assaulted, and as an adult faced with children of my own or a friends who were assaulted by adults in our community, it was absolutely imperative that trusted adults and police were told what happened. Because I was able to report my assault to the sheriff, the perpetrator was caught, and he had done it before. In other instances, I’ve supported a family who faced a hideous violation and I reported it to the police immediately. The perpetrator went to jail (and he also had a prior record).  As an event host, I’ve had to report assaultive behavior to the event security and the town sheriff, and the perpetrator was removed from the grounds. 

I know that to a child, what they need to see and feel the most is that they are believed and protected. Not reporting the incident does not send this message. 

Hey guess what? That fuck you extends to you too because:

1. The OP DID REPORT IT and guess what? Con organizers were less than helpful. Reference: http://saintcheshire.tumblr.com/post/83500214395/gayredshirts-reblogged-your-post-a-word-about

2. The girl herself, THE ACTUAL VICTIM, did not want to talk to anyone: http://saintcheshire.tumblr.com/post/83495234862/fallingoutlasvegas-reblogged-your-post-and

I’m glad your ass has had such wonderful interactions with authorities. I really am, genuinely, but don’t you fucking dare walk into this as if somehow that’s universal or even AVERAGE for the experience that women and girls have when it comes to this sort of thing. There’s a reason that so few rapists ever EVER see a courtroom and fewer still see jail time for what they do. 

You need to ask yourself how fucked up it is in this reality in which we live, that this system is more eager to prosecute people for possession of chemicals the state dislikes than for the crime of violating other people’s bodies.

You need to ask yourself about a thing called context and you need to consider exactly what even an experienced, obviously savvy and strong woman who was running her own booth could’ve expected as far as help from the people who ran the con. You need to consider that when con organizers open the floor to something intended for young children and let bronies just sprawl out with their porn, you can damn well tell who’s side they’re on, who they mean to cater to and protect. And it ain’t the little girls who are gonna see pictures of Applejack in a gangbang. It ain’t the little girls at all.

And you know what? This child learned that lesson you wanted them to learn. They saw that these women BELIEVED THEM and PROTECTED them. Because guess what? These women BELIEVED AND PROTECTED THIS KID. This child learned an even more valuable lesson which is that it doesn’t necessarily have to go to the cops for it to be considered valid and for them to have the expectation that someone will DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT. 

Not reporting when the kid doesn’t want to talk to anyone and is already scared and traumatized is called RESPECTING THE FUCKING VICTIM, okay? When that kid said “no, I don’t want this”, she had every right to call the shots when it came to her own experiences. You don’t fucking force an eleven-year-old girl to go talk to a cop or a con organizer, especially when the people that the women DID TALK TO said they couldn’t do anything, that it was just a rumor. 

You know what would’ve happened if they’d forced this kid to start making statements? That kid would’ve learned that at the end of the day, rapists win. Authorities don’t care. Nothing can be done, because these people won’t do it. This kid would’ve learned that they better just not get assaulted again because otherwise they’re gonna face people like the ones at the con who were all, “well, it was just a rumor you can’t prove it”. 

Instead, this kid learned there’s another way. That people can band together and do what the police are too busy killing and oppressing people to do. That women can come together and say “fuck what anyone else says, we believe this kid and we’re going on fucking PATROL to make sure she’s safe.” This kid learned that when it comes her turn, when she’s older, when she might see a girl in the same spot, that responding in that way is worth doing. That just protecting and believing and following that girl’s wishes is enough. 

I’m tired of this bullshit idea that victims are under some onus to report what happened to them to state officials and authorities (like police) because somehow if they don’t, they’re doing something wrong or they’re letting “the person get away to hurt someone else” or something. 

No, no, no. You do not put the burden for stoping a rapist or other predator of that type on a victim’s shoulders. You put it on their shoulders and the shoulders of the con organizers and the police who are LESS THAN HELPFUL ALMOST ALWAYS. 

You know what? Acting like going straight to a police person is always the right thing is pure bullshit. Because as a kid, with what happened to me, I deliberately didn’t tell anyone until I was in therapy and almost in my 30’s because that scared the shit out of me. The police scared the shit out of me. Having to tell them scared the shit out of me. What I wish I’d had were these women. Women who would just listen to me, ask me what I wanted, and then help me. What I needed was someone who wasn’t gonna put me through that, someone who would say, “Okay, yeah, I believe you. I’m gonna do what it takes to make you safe and if you don’t wanna report, you don’t have to. What matters is that you’re taken care of, feel safe, and are protected.”

So just fuck you. 

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nancaia:

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saintcheshire:

So I just got back last night from a brony convention in San Francisco. I was working a booth for a vendor friend, and let me tell you what happened:

We met a little girl who was there with her family. She got a button drawn at our booth, told us all about her favorite ponies, and was overall just too damn cute. She had an MLP lanyard filled with pins she’d gotten in the vendor’s room, and gave me a Fluttershy pin because she liked my cosplay. She ended up just hanging out with us for a while and bein’ super cute. We call her Babby because she’s 11 and precious.

The next day, she runs up to the booth, terrified, and asks if she can please hide under our table for a few minutes. Turns out a dude had been following her around the con all day, and tried to get her to come up to his hotel room. Alone. She tells us she thought he was okay at first because he was wearing an MLP shirt, but she didn’t want to go anywhere with him, and he made her uneasy. At one point, after she’d refused, he grabbed her arm in the elevators and tried to get her to follow him. She ran, and now she wants somewhere to hide.

We tell her of course, hurry her behind our booth and fucking station ourselves around her because she’s eleven years old and all of us are prepared to physically attack the human trashheap who tries to fuck with her. We’re all dressed up in wings and ears and we’re 100000% prepared to rip them off and launch across that table to defend this kid. Eventually this very large dude strolls by, very obviously looking around, and she quietly points him out to us. At this point I’m ready to set him on fire, but when I ask if she needs me to go report him, she shakes her head. She doesn’t want to get in trouble, or make anyone mad.

We see him a few more times over the course of the day, because he keeps meandering over to our booth and just casually looking around. Eventually he actually stops to take a flier from our table and asks us a question, and we coldly send him on his way. We start sending a coworker with Babby whenever her parents aren’t around and she wants to go check out artist’s alley or the vendor’s hall. Because otherwise she’s not safe. She can’t run around and freely enjoy a convention about a show aimed at her, because instead of being surrounded by peers she’s somehow surrounded by men who pose a threat to her.

My point here: this is why I fucking hate “bronies.” Because grown-ass men are flooding into a space carved out for children—often little girls—and are making it unsafe for them.

I met a lot of non-awful people there, of course. I met a lot of parents and older siblings. A lot of adorable little boys who were happy to empathize with female characters, and a lot of little kids who wanted a picture with cosplays of their favorite pony. I met a lot of people who were cool and nice and just liked cartoons. I met a male Pinkie Pie cosplayer with a Fluttershy lady-friend who juggled and spun plates and was happy to entertain kids, and were generally just really cool people.

But I also met a lot of skeevy dudebros. A lot of guys in fedoras loudly discussing sexual shit in a room with children. Guys who drew/sold/displayed really fucking inappropriate “fanart,” including gross bodypillows that had no purpose in a little kids’ toy convention. I met a guy who gushed with absolute glee about the pleasure he derives from “corrupting innocence.” I met a lot of people who wanted to take something sweet and nice for children and make it about THEM. A lot of guys who wanted to make it about their dicks. People who made it UNSAFE for the intended audience to even be in attendance.

So yeah. If you call yourself a brony, I’m prolly not gonna trust you. Because I’ve seen y’all in action, and I am not impressed. Frankly I’m infuriated. This is like a bunch of gross neckbeards swarming Disneyland and shoving kids out of the way so they can grope Cinderella, and finding nothing wrong with it because they think they’re entitled to it.

My Little Pony is a really cute show with a lot of nice messages for kids, and gross brony shitweasels are trying to fucking take it from them by force. And I will fight them.

wHOA WHOA WHOA WHOAAAAAAAA!!!!!

hold up.

wait a minute here.

you’ve made a fantastic point here and all, but listen, are YOU TELLING ME. THAT AN ELEVEN YEAR OLD GIRL RAN TO YOU. TERRIFIED. JUST NEARLY GOT ABDUCTED. BY A STRANGER, AN ADULT MAN. WHO TOUCHED HER. ALONE IN  AN ELEVATOR.

and you let that predator walk free?

the little girl is scared of reporting him and you just go with it? what the fuck. whAT THE FUCK. THAT LITTLE GIRL ISN’T THE ONLY LITTLE GIRL WHO’S IN DANGER. 

LISTEN YA’LL YOU CAN MAKE ALL THE GREAT POINTS YOU WANT ON TUMBLR BUT IF YOU MEET A CHILD WHO CONFIDES IN YOU THEY FEEL UNSAFE, EXPLICITLY TELL YOU A GROWN MAN IS HUNTING THEM OUT TO DO AWFUL THINGS TO THEM AND LITERALLY ABDUCT THEM, WHAT THE FUCK? YOU GET THAT PIECE OF SHIT IN JAIL. YOU HAVE SOMEONE KEEP HIM BUSY AND YOU GET THE FUCKING COPS. WHERE WERE HER PARENTS?? YOU ARE AN ADULT!!!! ACT LIKE ONE AND PROTECT LITTLE GIRLS AT ALL COSTS!! WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH YOU???? THAT GUY WAS FREE TO WALK OUT OF THERE AND CONTINUE BEING A GODDAMN PREDATOR I’M

…yeah, someone should have actually done something about that scumbag.  Keep in mind that the bystander effect is a thing, and don’t be yet another bystander.

what the fuck is wrong with op seriously

hey, OP, you could possibly still do something about this. if you saw the guy so often you could probably describe him to cops and con organisers and shit. maybe they had cameras running they can get images of the guy from. maybe other guests did.

and not giving little girls the idea that not reporting predators when you have other adults literally surrounding you to keep you safe is the right choice. that’d probably be good too.

Fuck the commenters. Because you know what? I bet a lot of other bronies witnessed this as well and did shit all. At least the OP and her friends physically guarded this child. They were not bystanders by any means and fuck you again. 

You keep saying “get him thrown in jail” but you know how rarely that ever happens? Because con organizers are very likely to take a skeptical if outright hostile and useless stance towards this and these women know it. 

Not to mention that if they did get a cop to mosey on down there, this eleven year old kid would have to try to articulate what happened and the cop would say “there’s no evidence” and “if I didn’t see anything, I can’t help you” and “it’s her word against his”. 

I’ve had friends who were grown ass women when they reported rapes that they had good evidence for and they got cops telling them not to bother filing a report, there was nothing the police could do anyway.

So don’t act like the option to “tell” someone about this is totally there and totally reliable. Don’t act like con organizers who run these things weren’t already making it clear that they were willing to cater to bronies by letting them do all those things without saying “hey, keep it kid friendly” or “watch your merchandise, there are kids around”.

You keep talking like there’s this perfect system that’s totally in favor of victims that will act swiftly to protect the well being of little girl who experience an attempt at an assault or even actually are assaulted/raped.

There’s not. Okay. You keep acting like there was good, reliable help to get in the first place.

I’m here to tell you THERE IS NOT. I was targeted by a grown ass man who picked me up in a fandom meant for kids when I was 13/14 years old. And let me tell you, there ain’t help to get. Because we live in a system where the onus is on the victim to prove, to a standard that juries seeking death penalties aren’t held to, that they were not only raped/assaulted but that they were “good” victims who didn’t do anything wrong. 

This kid WOULD have been asked if she’d done anything to make this man think she wanted to go to his room. This kid WOULD have had it implied or outright said over and over again that maybe she “tempted” him. 

Moreover, this kid was already traumatized and hiding in a booth. You really think she’s gonna be able give a statement to the police that they’ll take seriously?

Teaching a kid not to trust the police is a fucking survival skill for all too many kids on this planet and in the U.S. So don’t yell at these women because, when faced with a system that would’ve ground this kid into dust and just added to her trauma, they decided to roll with what made the kid feel safest and most at ease and took it upon themselves TO PHYSICALLY GUARD HER. 

What they taught this kid is to trust her instincts on who to trust and who not to trust. They taught this kid that she was perfectly RIGHT to know who to run to in an emergency and who to run FROM in one. 

So just fuck y’all who are more concerned with yelling at the OP for what she didn’t do rather than maybe concentrating that energy on telling bronies and all the other predators of the world not to fucking grab 11-year-old girls. If people put that much vehemence into stopping rape culture, there wouldn’t be this shit at all. 

But nope, let’s blame the one person who ACTUALLY DID SOMETHING USEFUL. 

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houselannisters:

Yes because jaime would totally rape cersei

the jaime that  felt sick at the sound of hearing rhaella targaryen raped

the jaime that also felt sick after he heard of ellia and her babies being brutally murdered

THE JAIME THAT GOT HIS HAND CUT OFF SAVING HIS FRIEND FROM BEING RAPED

THE JAIME THAT SAID HE WOULD RATHER DIE IF HE WAS A WOMAN THAN LET SOMEONE RAPE HIM

THAT JAIME

Thank you for this right here. That entire scene was just gratuitous as hell and there’s no reason for it to happen besides the fact that apparently the showrunners just REALLY REALLY want rape. I honestly do not think I can watch this show anymore. Because it’s become clear that it’s less about following the books or even creating a new visions of it and more about using the books as a backdrop for these things because in the end they just really wanted a show about rape and torture. 

They just really wanted a show about rape and torture. And not to shine a light on how hideous those things are. Oh no. They wanted to use them to get people excited. By rape and torture. 

This is so much bullshit I do not know how to say how much bullshit it is.

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On race, the US is not as improved as some would have us believe - Gary Younge

knowledgeequalsblackpower:

GREAT article.

Comments section, however, is the capital of white nonsense.

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freedoms-progress:

1. If something would be boring and/or undramatic for a male character, it would probably be boring and/or undramatic for a female character. If you’re writing a female character (particularly in a major role), I’d recommend thinking about whether you’d want to read about a male character in that situation or with that trait. If not, then you’re probably boring your readers.

2. The character is useless. Have you made a main character more or less helpless for most of the story? Does she watch as the story happens around her? Does she get repeatedly saved by other characters when the going gets rough? Please think back to #1. You’d probably be bored reading about a more or less helpless guy, right? Your readers will be just as bored by a helpless female.

3. The character’s only defining trait is being hyper-smart or (more rarely) a total ditz. That’s fine for one character among several, but if she’s your only significant female character, it’ll raise questions about your ability to handle female characters at a more relatable level of intelligence. If you’re having trouble with more relatable female characters, I’d recommend checking out some Meg Cabot books, Mean Girls and/or Pride and Prejudice.

3.1. The character is totally pure. A character that always does the right thing and has no motivations besides being friendly/agreeable/nice is probably pretty boring. 100% pure characters strain the suspension of disbelief, are less relatable and usually less dramatic. For whatever reason, these types of boring characters are almost always women.

4. Your readers will probably be able to tell if you have not read many female main characters written by female authors. If you don’t have the firsthand experience of actually being a female, being well-read is probably the closest you’ll get to seeing the subtle distinctions between most women and most men in terms of perspective, dialogue and actions. Conversely, when I’m reading manuscripts, the easiest way for me to pick out male characters written by female authors is when 1) the character is hyper-introspective and collected (even in a crisis) and the author doesn’t realize that’s unusual, and/or 2) a male character notices far too many irrelevant details, such as eye color and hair color, and the author inadvertently makes it sound like the character’s ogling someone or writing a fashion review.

5. The character is a love interest that doesn’t have a role outside of romance. She’ll probably be a more interesting love interest if she has something else going on. For example, Lois Lane is (occasionally) a competent reporter whose investigations sometimes tie into Superman’s work. Pepper Potts figured out who kidnapped Tony Stark by breaking into Stane’s office. Ramona Flowers from Scott Pilgrim had a penchant for awesomeness and a mallet. Also, she was a ninja courier for Amazon.

5.1. The character is defined by her physical attractiveness and/or sex appeal. If you consider physical attractiveness one of the three most interesting things about a major character, I would recommend rethinking the character’s development because most likely the character is a love interest that is interesting only to the author. (Think back to #1–you wouldn’t want to read about a guy whose main trait was his handsomeness, would you?) Also, please bear in mind that most of the professionals evaluating your submission will probably be ladies, so you won’t even have the titillation angle working in your favor.

6. The character has no substantial goals besides going along with other characters and/or getting in bed with somebody. If you’re going to bother writing in a character, I’d recommend giving him/her some sort of independent effect on the plot. If not, why bother having the character? Fortunately, you don’t need to give a character much space to give her/him a role to play. For example, Neville Longbottom had around a page of dialogue (~350 words) in the first Harry Potter book and he still managed to raise the stakes for the protagonists by growing a spine at absolutely the worst moment. (Dumbledore’s recognition of his badassery was probably the highlight of the first book for me).

7. The character is mute. In general, I think the mindset behind this decision is “I’m having a lot of trouble writing dialogue for females, so I’ll just make her mute.” In this case, muting a major female character will only draw attention to how bad you think your female dialogue is. I’d strongly recommend practicing your female dialogue instead–the practice will help, and at least you’ll get out of instant-rejection territory.

Wow. This list is like a how-to guide on perpetuating bullshit misogyny in writing written by the most clueless, not-helpful person who thinks they’re helping ever. 

First off, I just want to address a part of #7 on this list, particularly: "I’d strongly recommend practicing your female dialogue instead"

REALLY?!? “Female dialogue”. What the fuck is female dialogue? What is it that we female types do that makes the way we speak so different or so strange that people need to practice it? You say practicing like it’s some complicated form of algebra that we need to really do drills on until we’re able to do it smoothly because apparently women talk so funny that other people can’t get the hang of it at first. They don’t talk like men. There’s a special kind of dialogue that’s JUST for female types and you need to practice or otherwise they’ll speak the wrong way in your writing. 

Because of “female dialogue” and also reasons.

This whole list is exactly we’re getting nowhere at light speed when it comes to gender equality in media. Male characters and male writers get away with doing everything on this list. I swear to god, I could just go through and write a 20 page analysis on why Game of Thrones breaks all these rules and yet it’s bestselling and there’s a TV show. Starting with the fact that women can’t be mute/speak little and be interesting but that dude wrote a dude who only ever says “Hodor” and people LIKE HODOR. (Me included, but don’t dare say that Hodor the dude gets to be Hodor but female characters can’t possibly pull that off). 

This list is about how to write female characters that meet MALE expectations of what interesting and relatable and all that other crap should be. 

Interesting to WHO? Relatable to WHO? Answer: men. This is a list on how to write female characters that do what men find best. This is a guide to conforming. 

You know what? As a real life woman and real life writer, let me impart my own wisdom. When you write female characters, your biggest problem is not going to be writing the female characters. It’s going to be misogyny. What’s going to keep people from “relating to” or “finding interesting” your female characters is not going to be just your writing. It’s going to be misogyny. It’s going to be that they’re coming to the table with a lifetime’s worth of bad socialization and ugly prejudices they’re not even fully aware of. 

You need to understand that when you write a female character, the first thing you did wrong in the eyes of most is that you wrote a female character. 

I mean, let’s consider that there’s never any “guides to writing male character”, telling people how to craft male characters that people (which people) can relate to and that people (which people, I ask again?) find interesting. 

You know why? Because our society teaches us that when it comes to men and male characters, we ought to make the effort psychologically to at least meet the media half way. We should stretch and find any justification to sympathize or empathize, or at least to be interested. It teaches us that even if a male character just comes on screen (or on the page) sit down and just sits, we should take in every little detail and find a way to at the very least consider that man valid. 

Female characters (and women in real life) are expected to stretch until it hurts, until they meet the viewers, until they meet others in their seats. They have to bend into all kind of shapes until someone finds them valid. 

But with female character? We have long, long lists of things that women need to do. They need to be: interesting, dramatic, relatable (to WHO?), have a deeply developed multi-dimensional personality, not be too pure (purity levels not specified), not just be a love interest but do things on the side that meet the “interesting” litmus test, have substantial goals, and talk in the right way.

I laugh. There are so many female characters who are this and they get so much shit. They told they’re to dramatic, they’re told they’re phony, they told they’re whiny, they told they’re sluts, they get told they’re interfering with the hero’s goals by having their own, they’re told that they should talk less. 

You need to consider the fact that male characters get to be James Bond and Superman and the Disney Princes and hell, even Humbert Humbert (Lolita), who’s a child raping kidnapper and the guy from Catcher in the Rye and Frodo Baggins. I don’t relate well to rapists, nor was Prince Eric terribly developed. He just sailed a lot and fell in love with underage mermaids and that’s all we know of him. 

You need to consider that this person is name checking Iron Man, Scott Pilgrim vs. The World, and Superman for their examples. All media named for the lead male character. Telling, don’t you think?

You need to consider that when this list name checks titles/authors for practicing on women, they run to: Meg Cabot, Pride and Prejudice, and Mean Girls. Right there, you’ve just proven that this isn’t about gender equality, it’s about being palatable to WHITE men. Those books are about pretty, young, white middle class, able, straight, cis girls/women who’s storylines charmingly revolve around their quest for love and finding their place in the social order. The happy ending of which is that this pretty white thing is now acceptably and heterosexually paired off with a guy who doesn’t need to be interesting or be more than a love interesting because he’s a guy and also fully vested in her proper social place. 

Fuck that bullshit. Read Octavia Butler and Nalo Hopkinson. Read Marjorie M. Liu and read Maxine Hong Kingston read Nalini Singh and Gita Mehta. Read fiction and non-fiction. Find books by lesbians, trans women, disabled women, find books by old women, find books by women who’s first language isn’t English. You want classic lit, skip Jane Austen. Get thee to Tale of the Genji written by Murasaki Shikibu, because she wrote that in the 12th Century and it was the world’s first novel. 

For that matter, people reading this need to consider the credibility of anyone who writes this: Conversely, when I’m reading manuscripts, the easiest way for me to pick out male characters written by female authors is when 1) the character is hyper-introspective and collected (even in a crisis) and the author doesn’t realize that’s unusual, and/or 2) a male character notices far too many irrelevant details, such as eye color and hair color, and the author inadvertently makes it sound like the character’s ogling someone or writing a fashion review.

I mean, I know I’ve wall o’ texted you, but let’s break this down. First, there’s a part about women getting men wrong (I laugh) and that the way you know this is if a character is “hyper-introspective and collected even in a crisis” By the by, apparently if Catcher in the Rye never crossed this person’s desk, or rather, Catcher in the Rye with a female name attached ever did. Thank god JD Salinger was a man, am I right?

So he’s either too much in his feelings or not enough. Hmm. Basically, female authors you need to make sure that your male characters don’t at all deviate from the way MEN think of themselves. This list writer also goes on to say that female writers apparently have too many “irrelevant details” like eye/hair color, which makes it sound like “ogling” or a “fashion review”.

No one who makes a hit at something so strongly associated with women (fashion and fashion “reviews’ - what is that even?) needs to be writing this list. Fuck you, list writer. Fuck you for considering the way women view and understand the world as being inferior and that it’s not good enough to be applied to men. Fuck you on behalf, as well, of the men who like fashion reviews and do look at the world. Fuck you on behalf of all the people you just backhanded because you want women to act like women (though how with a list like this, I know not) and men to act like men.

No, women must follow the canon for male behavior. Men have a lot of latitude, but they must never in anyway look like they’re being used by women to express what a woman writer wants to express.

Never mind that maybe this list writer needs to consider that if women write that a male character is doing something that seems like ogling, it’s because ALL of us live under the male gaze, and many of us spend a good part of our lives as both girls and women having men ogle us, cat call us, hit on us when we want to be left alone, harass us, and generally make it clear they’re mentally carving us up like a tender steak. So if we reflect what we know about men (which we have to know for survival) and you don’t like it, is that really the author’s fault or yours, list writer?

Look, as a real woman and a real writer, let me tell you this tip for writing female characters: start with them being human. Go from there. Meaning, you need to get to a place where you don’t seek out lists like this and go around practicing your “female dialogue”. Because you finally realize that women talk in all kinds of ways, they do all sorts of things. 

This list is bullshit in the first degree here. Look, people who think you can’t write female characters. Let me assure that it’s not your writing. It’s YOU. It’s that you’re soaking in misogyny because our society is awash with it. It’s that you’ve been bombarded, even from sources claiming to be helpful, with the idea that women are strange, somewhat boring, whiny, useless, not-relatable pseudo-humans who need to be given at least five coats of polish and taught the rules before they’re fit to be viewed. 

I say, write that pure damsel character. I say, write the woman who’s known because she’s a supergenius but not much less. I say write the “just a girlfriend” character. I say write a woman who can’t or won’t talk. I say write a woman who has no idea what she’s doing yet. Write the woman who wears all pink all the time, write the woman who’s working on cars. Write a woman who’s doing both of those things. Write a woman who can’t swing a sword to save her life and how she copes with getting thrown into a situation where you NEED to. Write the woman who needs to be rescued. Write the woman who’s difficult to love and even more difficult to understand. Write the woman who gets along with everyone. 

But just write her like you get that she’s a human fucking being.

I’m not saying there aren’t tropes and cliches and down right harmful social memes about women. There are. You need to avoid them. But this list isn’t getting you there. You wanna avoid doing those hurtful things? The answer isn’t to improve your writing, it’s to improve yourself. It’s to educate yourself about misogyny and THEN let that be reflected in your writing rather than trying to write so that the misogyny doesn’t show through. 

As a woman who reads, I promise you this. I don’t give a shit what your agent or your editor told you, I know when you’re a misogynist. I know when you regard people like me as inferior. I know when you’re full of shit. I know when you’re being shoved at me by a publishing industry that wants to replicate the success of the same narrow stripe of white people and put you out there because you resemble [insert white person] rather than because you were worth the paper you’re printed on. 

You don’t need a list, you need a mental makeover. 

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I am in desperate, dire, unfettered need of somewhere to find some bras. I am literally down to my last one. Lane Bryant used to make a “back smoothing” that FINALLY worked for me after years and years of bras where the mesh backing would roll up and cause me a great deal of discomfort. But they stopped making those. 

Probably because it was comfortable to fat people with breasts and Lane Bryant is based in pretending to be a fatty’s best good friend but doesn’t seem to understand how to make clothes that actually work with the kind of shape, dimension, and distribution of fat people’s bodies. Because fat shaming is their friend, too. Fat shaming convinces fat people that they must not only be well coiffed just to be worthy of not burning other people’s eyeballs, but that to be considered a good and successful fatty, their fat bodies must mimic skinny bodies as much as is possible until Newtonian physics itself cries, “Nay!” God forbid you’ve got a stomach or butt or thighs that will never, ever look like what thin people have. Then you just try not to let it cause a self-loathing filled mental breakdown as you try on clothes that are clearly not designed by someone who thinks designing for fat people and just upping the dimension on skinny people clothes are the same. 

I digress.

I’ve learned to live with the consequences of underwire, particularly the stabbing pains near the armpit region and in my upper side and also that eventually I will hear the “snap” of the underwire and thus, another bra is gone. Underwire seems to give me enough support that I can walk and do things without my breasts causing aggravating my back and thus the chronic pain I’ve been in. But if other people have suggestions here, lay them on me!

But I do need a bra. Or two or three. So, if any of you have any recommendations for anything that suits someone who is a 44DD (or 46 depending on the bra, really), and is U.S. based that isn’t extremely expensive (holy crap the spanx site has a 72 dollar bra, I can’t afford that shit!), I need to know. I need to KNOW. 

So help a big fat queer lady who needs an over the shoulder boulder holder out? Yeah? Thanks!

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seekingwillow:

madamethursday:

sugaredvenom:

trashmagicxo:

mjolkk:

oh my god i’m at the grocery store and there is a guy in the frozen section who is tweaked off his balls on some kind hallucinatory drug. 

i’m in the next isle meowing softly through the cereal boxes where he can’t see me and he is losing his shit pulling pizza boxes out of the freezers and yelling that he needs to save the popsicle cat 

am i a bad person  

I love you

Don’t fuck with people on drugs. Even shit like this that seems funny can cause a bad trip, and if you’ve never had one you have no idea how awful and scary they are.

Like, that guy sounds like he’s genuinely scared for this cat, and he’s trying to help it, that’s a panicky state to be in anyway… Plus if people don’t realise you’re doing this they could read him as being out of control/mentally ill and he could end up arrested or being kept in hospital.

And please be aware that mentally ill people (especially if the are of color) tend to have very violent, harmful interactions with the police wherein they’re often beaten, abused, and killed. 

So yeah. Don’t do that shit with people.

Also, OP, you are an asshole. One way or the other, you saw a human being in a vulnerable state, less able to fend for themselves on a basic mental level and your first instinct was to FUCK WITH THEM. You are an asshole. Consider not being around other people until you learn to be less of a sociopath, you sadistic fuckwad.

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Especially with the assumption that the ‘trippin’ was INTENTIONAL and not a side-effect of a prescription medication, or an interaction BETWEEN prescription medications. And you’re setting this person up to get in trouble with the store, the police, panicking them, just - go to hell and live there you sadistic fuckazord.

Oh fucking god yes, THIS. Not to mention that not being on medications, even if it’s a controlled, stepped down withdrawal supervised by a psychiatrist/doctor can do this to you depending on what you take and what for. 

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sugaredvenom:

trashmagicxo:

mjolkk:

oh my god i’m at the grocery store and there is a guy in the frozen section who is tweaked off his balls on some kind hallucinatory drug. 

i’m in the next isle meowing softly through the cereal boxes where he can’t see me and he is losing his shit pulling pizza boxes out of the freezers and yelling that he needs to save the popsicle cat 

am i a bad person  

I love you

Don’t fuck with people on drugs. Even shit like this that seems funny can cause a bad trip, and if you’ve never had one you have no idea how awful and scary they are.

Like, that guy sounds like he’s genuinely scared for this cat, and he’s trying to help it, that’s a panicky state to be in anyway… Plus if people don’t realise you’re doing this they could read him as being out of control/mentally ill and he could end up arrested or being kept in hospital.

And please be aware that mentally ill people (especially if the are of color) tend to have very violent, harmful interactions with the police wherein they’re often beaten, abused, and killed. 

So yeah. Don’t do that shit with people.

Also, OP, you are an asshole. One way or the other, you saw a human being in a vulnerable state, less able to fend for themselves on a basic mental level and your first instinct was to FUCK WITH THEM. You are an asshole. Consider not being around other people until you learn to be less of a sociopath, you sadistic fuckwad.

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ifeelbetterer:

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durendals:

there is literally no difference between academic scholars discussing their interpretations of a text and a bunch of people yelling YOUR HEADCANON IS WRONG at each other

As a Masters student I can vouch for this.

As a published scholar, I can vouch for this too.

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